Tonight was a tough night. Jonathan lost his playoff little league game tonight and they are now out of the tournamnet. For me - it meant that baseball is over. Maybe I can get a hold of my allergies now. Maybe JoJo won't come home with dirt in his pockets every night. Maybe I can save some money rather than spend a fortune at the Snack Shack on Big League Chew.
However, for Jonathan, it was the worst night. It was the night they lost. Their season was over. The game he loves...over for the summer. He felt the feeling of defeat. He wanted to get up to bat one more time. He wanted to pitch to one more batter. He wanted to make one more out. He wanted the ump to make a better call. He wanted one just one more inning.
The hardest part about this season's end was that nothing that I said made him feel better. Because I knew how he felt. I knew the feeling of anger and frustration. And I knew what it was like to want one more chance to make a play or get a hit.
And only years later can I stand back and say that "It's only a game". But to an 11 year old boy who is passionate about his sport- the words mean nothing. And that is what breaks my heart tonight. I know now that it is only a game but it took 20 some years for me to figure that out. It breaks my heart that his tears will continue to fall. They may fall after many baseball games or basketball games to come. The feeling of disappointment will return, as this is a part of life.
It is also a part of being a parent. I had to stand back and let him cry. Let him feel the disappointment and learn how to deal with it on his own. As a mom...I feel helpless......